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Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

“Emotional Neglect is the white space in the family picture; the background rather than the foreground. It is insidious and overlooked while it does its silent damage to people’s lives.” (Dr. Jonice Webb) Editor's note: I use "he" because "he or she" can interrupt the flow of sentences. But abuse can happen to any gender.… Continue reading Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

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What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

Editor’s Note: Upon reading this post, some readers may say, “Oh, it's just a movie!” Indeed, but stories, whether in books or movies or television programs, teach us about ourselves, about what we value, about what we love, about what we hate. Recently, I rewatched the latest Star Wars film, "The Force Awakens," and noticed… Continue reading What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse · Healing

Even When Abusive Parents Apologize, They Don’t

Every adult survivor of emotional child abuse would love to hear the following apology in some version or other: "Child, I'm so deeply sorry for all the pain and suffering and neglect that you endured through my actions or inactions. If I could go back in time, I'd right those wrongs, treat you with the… Continue reading Even When Abusive Parents Apologize, They Don’t

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse

Embrace the Quiet Joy of the Christmas Season

Judging from the surge of pageviews and long emotional emails in my inbox, I know you're hurting and wanting the hurting to stop. You're tired of the unrelenting emotional abuse and mind games that you've endured. Even if you've taken the step to create space between you and your abusers, you may still feel out… Continue reading Embrace the Quiet Joy of the Christmas Season

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Becoming Real · Emotional Child Abuse

Finding Something to Be Grateful for on Thanksgiving

Whether you're estranged from your family, limiting contact with them, or processing the truth about your childhood, Thanksgiving can be one very difficult holiday. Images of delighted, happy-to-be-together families gathered around the dining room table or playing football in someone's gorgeous leaf-filled lawn are everywhere, not just on commercials but on social media accounts, too.… Continue reading Finding Something to Be Grateful for on Thanksgiving

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Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

After you've awakened to the truth that you were emotionally abused as a child (and perhaps continue to be as an adult child), you will definitely encounter some hard-core resistance from some disbelieving people. These people either have known you as a child and believe the image of a happy family that your parents propagated;… Continue reading Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

ACONs · Emotional Child Abuse · Narcissism · Parental Narcissism

ACoNs Speak Out: The Highlights of a Recent Study About Parental Narcissism

Editor's Note: This May, research project manager Valerie Coles emailed me about giving adult children of narcissists (ACoNs) an opportunity to participate in her study (along with Dr. Jennifer Monahan) about parental narcissism. Tonight, she sent the highlights of the summary and news. Note that the researcher used the term "perceived" not to invalidate ACoNs'… Continue reading ACoNs Speak Out: The Highlights of a Recent Study About Parental Narcissism

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Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

You've long suspected something is not quite normal about your relationship with your parents. Perhaps you even sought answers and read about the signs of emotional child abuse. Now, you have come to the hard, cold realization that you've been emotionally abused as a child—and that the abuse has extended into your adulthood. So, what… Continue reading Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

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From the Editor’s Mailbox: ‘Earning’ a Parent’s Love, Experiencing Flashbacks, and Explaining NPD

The Invisible Scar receives lots of emails every month, and some have questions best shared with our readers in this "From the Editor's Mailbox" column. The subject matter merits more input, and, though our main advice is for the sender to turn to therapy, we also invite helpful insight or support. Here's a look at… Continue reading From the Editor’s Mailbox: ‘Earning’ a Parent’s Love, Experiencing Flashbacks, and Explaining NPD

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse

Bunny-Boiling Parents Will Destroy What You Love [Types of Emotional Child Abuse, Part 3]

When you look up the definition of emotional child abuse, it includes different kinds of emotional child abuse. In our Types of Emotional Child Abuse series, the first post discussed the silent treatment, and the second, gaslighting. In our third part, we will explore "bunny boiling." In a healthy parent-child relationship, a parent supports the… Continue reading Bunny-Boiling Parents Will Destroy What You Love [Types of Emotional Child Abuse, Part 3]