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What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

Editor’s Note: Upon reading this post, some readers may say, “Oh, it's just a movie!” Indeed, but stories, whether in books or movies or television programs, teach us about ourselves, about what we value, about what we love, about what we hate. Recently, I rewatched the latest Star Wars film, "The Force Awakens," and noticed… Continue reading What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Becoming Real · Emotional Child Abuse

Finding Something to Be Grateful for on Thanksgiving

Whether you're estranged from your family, limiting contact with them, or processing the truth about your childhood, Thanksgiving can be one very difficult holiday. Images of delighted, happy-to-be-together families gathered around the dining room table or playing football in someone's gorgeous leaf-filled lawn are everywhere, not just on commercials but on social media accounts, too.… Continue reading Finding Something to Be Grateful for on Thanksgiving

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Awakening · Becoming Real · Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse · Healing

Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

After you've awakened to the truth that you were emotionally abused as a child (and perhaps continue to be as an adult child), you will definitely encounter some hard-core resistance from some disbelieving people. These people either have known you as a child and believe the image of a happy family that your parents propagated;… Continue reading Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

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Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

You've long suspected something is not quite normal about your relationship with your parents. Perhaps you even sought answers and read about the signs of emotional child abuse. Now, you have come to the hard, cold realization that you've been emotionally abused as a child—and that the abuse has extended into your adulthood. So, what… Continue reading Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Becoming Real · Book Reviews · Dr. Henry Cloud · Dr. John Townsend · Emotional Child Abuse · Healing · Toxic Relationships

How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t

If you are an adult survivor of emotional child abuse, you probably have a hard time differentiating the "safe" people in your life from ones that are crazy-makers or harmful to your well-being. In fact, you may not even grasp the concept of "safe people." That's not your fault. Raised by toxic people, you weren't… Continue reading How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t

Becoming Real · Emotional Child Abuse

Speaking the Truth Even If Your Voice Shakes (It Won’t Always)

I've been publishing posts at The Invisible Scar since April 2013, and from that moment, I've been the unwilling recipient of numerous unwanted Facebook posts, texts, emails, and voice mails from families and their friends. The underlying theme to all that communication has been that I am wrong to even discuss emotional child abuse, that… Continue reading Speaking the Truth Even If Your Voice Shakes (It Won’t Always)

Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Becoming Real · Healing

Do Something You Love in the New Year

Survivors of emotional child abuse who awaken to the reality of their past often talk about "finding out who I really am" and "becoming who I was meant to become." It's in that spirit, that I urge survivors of emotional child abuse to come up with a resolution this year to do something (healthy and… Continue reading Do Something You Love in the New Year

Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Becoming Real · Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse · No Contact · Toxic Relationships

Ending the Toxic Relationship and Giving Yourself Time and Space to Find Yourself

Some relationships are deeply damaging and unhealthy for the people within the relationship. Unlike healthy relationships, which have peaks and lows, which have struggles now and then, a toxic relationship is poison to the people involved. But what happens if the toxic relationship is within the family sphere? Imagine your daughter telling you that every time… Continue reading Ending the Toxic Relationship and Giving Yourself Time and Space to Find Yourself