ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Becoming Real · Emotional Child Abuse

Finding Something to Be Grateful for on Thanksgiving

Whether you're estranged from your family, limiting contact with them, or processing the truth about your childhood, Thanksgiving can be one very difficult holiday. Images of delighted, happy-to-be-together families gathered around the dining room table or playing football in someone's gorgeous leaf-filled lawn are everywhere, not just on commercials but on social media accounts, too.… Continue reading Finding Something to Be Grateful for on Thanksgiving

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Awakening · Becoming Real · Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse · Healing

Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

After you've awakened to the truth that you were emotionally abused as a child (and perhaps continue to be as an adult child), you will definitely encounter some hard-core resistance from some disbelieving people. These people either have known you as a child and believe the image of a happy family that your parents propagated;… Continue reading Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

ACONs · Emotional Child Abuse · Narcissism · Parental Narcissism

ACoNs Speak Out: The Highlights of a Recent Study About Parental Narcissism

Editor's Note: This May, research project manager Valerie Coles emailed me about giving adult children of narcissists (ACoNs) an opportunity to participate in her study (along with Dr. Jennifer Monahan) about parental narcissism. Tonight, she sent the highlights of the summary and news. Note that the researcher used the term "perceived" not to invalidate ACoNs'… Continue reading ACoNs Speak Out: The Highlights of a Recent Study About Parental Narcissism

ACONs · Becoming Real · Child Abuse · Dr. Gregory L. Jantz · Dr. Jonice Webb · Emotional Child Abuse · Healing · Research · Toxic Relationships

Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

You've long suspected something is not quite normal about your relationship with your parents. Perhaps you even sought answers and read about the signs of emotional child abuse. Now, you have come to the hard, cold realization that you've been emotionally abused as a child—and that the abuse has extended into your adulthood. So, what… Continue reading Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse · From the Editor · From the Editor's Mailbox

From the Editor’s Mailbox: ‘Earning’ a Parent’s Love, Experiencing Flashbacks, and Explaining NPD

The Invisible Scar receives lots of emails every month, and some have questions best shared with our readers in this "From the Editor's Mailbox" column. The subject matter merits more input, and, though our main advice is for the sender to turn to therapy, we also invite helpful insight or support. Here's a look at… Continue reading From the Editor’s Mailbox: ‘Earning’ a Parent’s Love, Experiencing Flashbacks, and Explaining NPD

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse

Bunny-Boiling Parents Will Destroy What You Love [Types of Emotional Child Abuse, Part 3]

When you look up the definition of emotional child abuse, it includes different kinds of emotional child abuse. In our Types of Emotional Child Abuse series, the first post discussed the silent treatment, and the second, gaslighting. In our third part, we will explore "bunny boiling." In a healthy parent-child relationship, a parent supports the… Continue reading Bunny-Boiling Parents Will Destroy What You Love [Types of Emotional Child Abuse, Part 3]

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse · therapy

17 Excuses People Give to Avoid Going to Talk Therapy (and Why They Should Really Rethink Them)

If you've been reading the Invisible Scar articles for some time, you know that we are proponents of therapy. We don't espouse a specific psychological approach nor do we care whether you choose a psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist, or counselor. We do care about Invisible Scar readers, though, and so we repeat (often) the phrase please… Continue reading 17 Excuses People Give to Avoid Going to Talk Therapy (and Why They Should Really Rethink Them)

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Emotional Child Abuse

The Secret Grief of an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

"I wonder if others feel the tremendous amount of loss and sadness I feel at not having the 'healthy' parent experience," writes an Invisible Scar reader in a recent email. "It's heartbreaking and my heart is definitely broken," she continues. "But, it's an overwhelming amount of grief to process and yet, it has to be… Continue reading The Secret Grief of an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

ACONs · Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Research

Your Final Chance to Participate in an ACoN Study

If you've not participated in The University of Georgia's recent study of how parental communications affect adults, you've still a final chance. Research project manager Valerie Coles emailed about giving adult children of narcissists (ACoNs) another opportunity to participate in the study. The short, simple survey will be open for participants up through June. (Bonus:… Continue reading Your Final Chance to Participate in an ACoN Study

Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Becoming Real · Book Reviews · Dr. Henry Cloud · Dr. John Townsend · Emotional Child Abuse · Healing · Toxic Relationships

How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t

If you are an adult survivor of emotional child abuse, you probably have a hard time differentiating the "safe" people in your life from ones that are crazy-makers or harmful to your well-being. In fact, you may not even grasp the concept of "safe people." That's not your fault. Raised by toxic people, you weren't… Continue reading How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t