Three Must-Read Posts for Mother’s Day If You’re an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

Advertisements on TV and the radio go over the top in portraying all mothers as idealized heroic women who did absolutely every single thing right. Motherhood, however, is far more complex and grittier than those bleached versions of it. It's a vocation that, when approached right, requires maternal sacrifice, encourages a selfless love from the … Continue reading Three Must-Read Posts for Mother’s Day If You’re an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

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Questions From the Mailbox: Allegedly Ruining Your Future, Deciding to Blog, and Wondering Whether to Tell Your Abusive Parents How You Feel

Editor’s Note: The Invisible Scar does not offer professional advice, only opinion. The Invisible Scar receives many emails every month. Some have questions or comments best shared with our readers in this “From the Editor’s Mailbox” column. Though our main advice is for the reader to seek therapy from a professional, we also invite helpful … Continue reading Questions From the Mailbox: Allegedly Ruining Your Future, Deciding to Blog, and Wondering Whether to Tell Your Abusive Parents How You Feel

Surviving Emotional Child Abuse: You Are So Much Stronger Than You Think You Are

You have made your way to this website about emotional child abuse. Despite all the naysayers and flying monkeys wanting you to remain in the same swampland you've lived by forever, you're here. You've chopped through the choking entanglements around you. You've navigated through the dense darkness of denial. And now, taking a breath in … Continue reading Surviving Emotional Child Abuse: You Are So Much Stronger Than You Think You Are

Grateful for the Good in Your Life

Thanksgiving is not about the turkey or the football game or the parade. It's not about just how many family members you've gathered around your table or how close your celebration can come to looking like the front of a Thanksgiving card. It's not even about the mouth-watering meal and all its delicious sides. It's … Continue reading Grateful for the Good in Your Life

Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

“Emotional Neglect is the white space in the family picture; the background rather than the foreground. It is insidious and overlooked while it does its silent damage to people’s lives.” (Dr. Jonice Webb) Editor's note: I use "he" because "he or she" can interrupt the flow of sentences. But abuse can happen to any gender. … Continue reading Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

Editor’s Note: Upon reading this post, some readers may say, “Oh, it's just a movie!” Indeed, but stories, whether in books or movies or television programs, teach us about ourselves, about what we value, about what we love, about what we hate. Recently, I rewatched the latest Star Wars film, "The Force Awakens," and noticed … Continue reading What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

What Really Happened: Finding Out You Had an Emotionally Abusive Childhood (and Tips for Healing)

Have you recently come to the realization that you've had an emotionally abusive childhood? If so, that awakening to the truth can be brutal. But do know that you're not alone. At The Invisible Scar, I receive tons of emails from people who have had this epiphany. And I tell them that, though this discovery … Continue reading What Really Happened: Finding Out You Had an Emotionally Abusive Childhood (and Tips for Healing)

Four Sanity-Saving Tips for Ignoring Mother’s Day

How should you celebrate Mother's Day when your mother was emotionally abusive? Short answer: You don't have to celebrate it. Short answer for adult survivors who are mothers: You celebrate your being a mom, and you reflect, pray, and learn about being a better one every day. Last year, I wrote about celebrating Mother's Day … Continue reading Four Sanity-Saving Tips for Ignoring Mother’s Day

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers [Book Review]

Some daughters grow up with a nagging sense of something not quite right in their relationship with their mothers, though the daughters can't place their finger on what's off exactly. It's a vague, pervasive feeling of being unloved and ignored. They feel like somehow, in some way, the loving relationship that other people seem to … Continue reading Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers [Book Review]

Even When Abusive Parents Apologize, They Don’t

Every adult survivor of emotional child abuse would love to hear the following apology in some version or other: "Child, I'm so deeply sorry for all the pain and suffering and neglect that you endured through my actions or inactions. If I could go back in time, I'd right those wrongs, treat you with the … Continue reading Even When Abusive Parents Apologize, They Don’t