Three Must-Read Posts for Mother’s Day If You’re an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

Advertisements on TV and the radio go over the top in portraying all mothers as idealized heroic women who did absolutely every single thing right. Motherhood, however, is far more complex and grittier than those bleached versions of it. It's a vocation that, when approached right, requires maternal sacrifice, encourages a selfless love from the … Continue reading Three Must-Read Posts for Mother’s Day If You’re an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

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Questions From the Mailbox: Allegedly Ruining Your Future, Deciding to Blog, and Wondering Whether to Tell Your Abusive Parents How You Feel

Editor’s Note: The Invisible Scar does not offer professional advice, only opinion. The Invisible Scar receives many emails every month. Some have questions or comments best shared with our readers in this “From the Editor’s Mailbox” column. Though our main advice is for the reader to seek therapy from a professional, we also invite helpful … Continue reading Questions From the Mailbox: Allegedly Ruining Your Future, Deciding to Blog, and Wondering Whether to Tell Your Abusive Parents How You Feel

Surviving Emotional Child Abuse: You Are So Much Stronger Than You Think You Are

You have made your way to this website about emotional child abuse. Despite all the naysayers and flying monkeys wanting you to remain in the same swampland you've lived by forever, you're here. You've chopped through the choking entanglements around you. You've navigated through the dense darkness of denial. And now, taking a breath in … Continue reading Surviving Emotional Child Abuse: You Are So Much Stronger Than You Think You Are

Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

“Emotional Neglect is the white space in the family picture; the background rather than the foreground. It is insidious and overlooked while it does its silent damage to people’s lives.” (Dr. Jonice Webb) Editor's note: I use "he" because "he or she" can interrupt the flow of sentences. But abuse can happen to any gender. … Continue reading Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

Editor’s Note: Upon reading this post, some readers may say, “Oh, it's just a movie!” Indeed, but stories, whether in books or movies or television programs, teach us about ourselves, about what we value, about what we love, about what we hate. Recently, I rewatched the latest Star Wars film, "The Force Awakens," and noticed … Continue reading What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

What Really Happened: Finding Out You Had an Emotionally Abusive Childhood (and Tips for Healing)

Have you recently come to the realization that you've had an emotionally abusive childhood? If so, that awakening to the truth can be brutal. But do know that you're not alone. At The Invisible Scar, I receive tons of emails from people who have had this epiphany. And I tell them that, though this discovery … Continue reading What Really Happened: Finding Out You Had an Emotionally Abusive Childhood (and Tips for Healing)

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers [Book Review]

Some daughters grow up with a nagging sense of something not quite right in their relationship with their mothers, though the daughters can't place their finger on what's off exactly. It's a vague, pervasive feeling of being unloved and ignored. They feel like somehow, in some way, the loving relationship that other people seem to … Continue reading Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers [Book Review]

Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

After you've awakened to the truth that you were emotionally abused as a child (and perhaps continue to be as an adult child), you will definitely encounter some hard-core resistance from some disbelieving people. These people either have known you as a child and believe the image of a happy family that your parents propagated; … Continue reading Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

ACoNs Speak Out: The Highlights of a Recent Study About Parental Narcissism

Editor's Note: This May, research project manager Valerie Coles emailed me about giving adult children of narcissists (ACoNs) an opportunity to participate in her study (along with Dr. Jennifer Monahan) about parental narcissism. Tonight, she sent the highlights of the summary and news. Note that the researcher used the term "perceived" not to invalidate ACoNs' … Continue reading ACoNs Speak Out: The Highlights of a Recent Study About Parental Narcissism

Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

You've long suspected something is not quite normal about your relationship with your parents. Perhaps you even sought answers and read about the signs of emotional child abuse. Now, you have come to the hard, cold realization that you've been emotionally abused as a child—and that the abuse has extended into your adulthood. So, what … Continue reading Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them