Three Must-Read Posts for Mother’s Day If You’re an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

Advertisements on TV and the radio go over the top in portraying all mothers as idealized heroic women who did absolutely every single thing right. Motherhood, however, is far more complex and grittier than those bleached versions of it. It's a vocation that, when approached right, requires maternal sacrifice, encourages a selfless love from the … Continue reading Three Must-Read Posts for Mother’s Day If You’re an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

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Surviving Emotional Child Abuse: You Are So Much Stronger Than You Think You Are

You have made your way to this website about emotional child abuse. Despite all the naysayers and flying monkeys wanting you to remain in the same swampland you've lived by forever, you're here. You've chopped through the choking entanglements around you. You've navigated through the dense darkness of denial. And now, taking a breath in … Continue reading Surviving Emotional Child Abuse: You Are So Much Stronger Than You Think You Are

Grateful for the Good in Your Life

Thanksgiving is not about the turkey or the football game or the parade. It's not about just how many family members you've gathered around your table or how close your celebration can come to looking like the front of a Thanksgiving card. It's not even about the mouth-watering meal and all its delicious sides. It's … Continue reading Grateful for the Good in Your Life

Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

“Emotional Neglect is the white space in the family picture; the background rather than the foreground. It is insidious and overlooked while it does its silent damage to people’s lives.” (Dr. Jonice Webb) Editor's note: I use "he" because "he or she" can interrupt the flow of sentences. But abuse can happen to any gender. … Continue reading Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

Editor’s Note: Upon reading this post, some readers may say, “Oh, it's just a movie!” Indeed, but stories, whether in books or movies or television programs, teach us about ourselves, about what we value, about what we love, about what we hate. Recently, I rewatched the latest Star Wars film, "The Force Awakens," and noticed … Continue reading What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

From the Editor’s Mailbox: Being a Trusted Adult to Your Siblings, Going No Contact, and Why Therapy May Not Work for You

Editor's Note: The Invisible Scar does not offer professional advice, only opinion. Here's a look at the most common questions popping up in my inbox lately and some thoughts regarding them. My younger siblings live at home, and they're being emotionally abused by our parents. What can I do? Call the Childhelp National Child Abuse … Continue reading From the Editor’s Mailbox: Being a Trusted Adult to Your Siblings, Going No Contact, and Why Therapy May Not Work for You

Even When Abusive Parents Apologize, They Don’t

Every adult survivor of emotional child abuse would love to hear the following apology in some version or other: "Child, I'm so deeply sorry for all the pain and suffering and neglect that you endured through my actions or inactions. If I could go back in time, I'd right those wrongs, treat you with the … Continue reading Even When Abusive Parents Apologize, They Don’t

Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

You've long suspected something is not quite normal about your relationship with your parents. Perhaps you even sought answers and read about the signs of emotional child abuse. Now, you have come to the hard, cold realization that you've been emotionally abused as a child—and that the abuse has extended into your adulthood. So, what … Continue reading Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

Want to Participate in a Study for Adult Children of Narcissists (ACoNs)?

Please note: The Invisible Scar is not affiliated in any way to the University of Georgia nor does it assume any responsibility regarding the study or survey mentioned below. Recently, Valerie Coles, a graduate teaching and research assistant at The University of Georgia, sent me an email regarding a study that she and Dr. Jennifer … Continue reading Want to Participate in a Study for Adult Children of Narcissists (ACoNs)?

From the Editor’s Mailbox: Smear Campaigns, Spreading Awareness, Maintaining Relationships With Abusive Parents, and More

As managing editor of The Invisible Scar, I'm always open to receiving your emails and comments. Sometimes, I get a flurry of emails on a theme or that have answers that benefit more than one person. I tackle those questions in a monthly post called From the Mailbox. Here's a look at the emails that … Continue reading From the Editor’s Mailbox: Smear Campaigns, Spreading Awareness, Maintaining Relationships With Abusive Parents, and More