Three Must-Read Posts for Mother’s Day If You’re an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

Advertisements on TV and the radio go over the top in portraying all mothers as idealized heroic women who did absolutely every single thing right. Motherhood, however, is far more complex and grittier than those bleached versions of it. It's a vocation that, when approached right, requires maternal sacrifice, encourages a selfless love from the … Continue reading Three Must-Read Posts for Mother’s Day If You’re an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

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Surviving Emotional Child Abuse: You Are So Much Stronger Than You Think You Are

You have made your way to this website about emotional child abuse. Despite all the naysayers and flying monkeys wanting you to remain in the same swampland you've lived by forever, you're here. You've chopped through the choking entanglements around you. You've navigated through the dense darkness of denial. And now, taking a breath in … Continue reading Surviving Emotional Child Abuse: You Are So Much Stronger Than You Think You Are

Grateful for the Good in Your Life

Thanksgiving is not about the turkey or the football game or the parade. It's not about just how many family members you've gathered around your table or how close your celebration can come to looking like the front of a Thanksgiving card. It's not even about the mouth-watering meal and all its delicious sides. It's … Continue reading Grateful for the Good in Your Life

Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

“Emotional Neglect is the white space in the family picture; the background rather than the foreground. It is insidious and overlooked while it does its silent damage to people’s lives.” (Dr. Jonice Webb) Editor's note: I use "he" because "he or she" can interrupt the flow of sentences. But abuse can happen to any gender. … Continue reading Emotionally Neglected Children May Feel Like They Are Ghosts

What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

Editor’s Note: Upon reading this post, some readers may say, “Oh, it's just a movie!” Indeed, but stories, whether in books or movies or television programs, teach us about ourselves, about what we value, about what we love, about what we hate. Recently, I rewatched the latest Star Wars film, "The Force Awakens," and noticed … Continue reading What Finn From ‘The Force Awakens’ and Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse Have in Common

From the Editor’s Mailbox: Being a Trusted Adult to Your Siblings, Going No Contact, and Why Therapy May Not Work for You

Editor's Note: The Invisible Scar does not offer professional advice, only opinion. Here's a look at the most common questions popping up in my inbox lately and some thoughts regarding them. My younger siblings live at home, and they're being emotionally abused by our parents. What can I do? Call the Childhelp National Child Abuse … Continue reading From the Editor’s Mailbox: Being a Trusted Adult to Your Siblings, Going No Contact, and Why Therapy May Not Work for You

What Really Happened: Finding Out You Had an Emotionally Abusive Childhood (and Tips for Healing)

Have you recently come to the realization that you've had an emotionally abusive childhood? If so, that awakening to the truth can be brutal. But do know that you're not alone. At The Invisible Scar, I receive tons of emails from people who have had this epiphany. And I tell them that, though this discovery … Continue reading What Really Happened: Finding Out You Had an Emotionally Abusive Childhood (and Tips for Healing)

Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the Movie ‘Tangled’: Mother Does Not Know Best

Editor's Note: Upon reading this post, some readers may say, "Oh, 'Tangled' is just a movie!" Indeed, "Tangled" is a movie, but not just one. Stories, whether in books or movies or television programs, teach us about ourselves, about what we value, about what we love, about what we hate. No "real-life Rapunzel" or "real-life … Continue reading Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the Movie ‘Tangled’: Mother Does Not Know Best

The Adult Survivor: Remembering the Truth vs Longing for What Could Have Been

Some of the best content on The Invisible Scar can be found in the comments section of the various blog posts. In reading them, I've seen myriad themes emerging. One of the most powerful ones is an adult survivor's longing for a loving family vs the truth of what their family is really like. The … Continue reading The Adult Survivor: Remembering the Truth vs Longing for What Could Have Been

Ending the Toxic Relationship and Giving Yourself Time and Space to Find Yourself

Some relationships are deeply damaging and unhealthy for the people within the relationship. Unlike healthy relationships, which have peaks and lows, which have struggles now and then, a toxic relationship is poison to the people involved. But what happens if the toxic relationship is within the family sphere? Imagine your daughter telling you that every time … Continue reading Ending the Toxic Relationship and Giving Yourself Time and Space to Find Yourself