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Suicide: When Your Sorrow Feels Too Dark

In memory of SKB Sometimes, adult survivors of emotional child abuse feel a deepening sadness that grows heavier and heavier with time. The burden of it can feel too much to carry... and they may think about suicide. So, we need to talk about suicide... and to discuss it with compassion and without judgment. Let's… Continue reading Suicide: When Your Sorrow Feels Too Dark

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What Really Happened: Finding Out You Had an Emotionally Abusive Childhood (and Tips for Healing)

Have you recently come to the realization that you've had an emotionally abusive childhood? If so, that awakening to the truth can be brutal. But do know that you're not alone. At The Invisible Scar, I receive tons of emails from people who have had this epiphany. And I tell them that, though this discovery… Continue reading What Really Happened: Finding Out You Had an Emotionally Abusive Childhood (and Tips for Healing)

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Even When Abusive Parents Apologize, They Don’t

Every adult survivor of emotional child abuse would love to hear the following apology in some version or other: "Child, I'm so deeply sorry for all the pain and suffering and neglect that you endured through my actions or inactions. If I could go back in time, I'd right those wrongs, treat you with the… Continue reading Even When Abusive Parents Apologize, They Don’t

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Embrace the Quiet Joy of the Christmas Season

Judging from the surge of pageviews and long emotional emails in my inbox, I know you're hurting and wanting the hurting to stop. You're tired of the unrelenting emotional abuse and mind games that you've endured. Even if you've taken the step to create space between you and your abusers, you may still feel out… Continue reading Embrace the Quiet Joy of the Christmas Season

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Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

After you've awakened to the truth that you were emotionally abused as a child (and perhaps continue to be as an adult child), you will definitely encounter some hard-core resistance from some disbelieving people. These people either have known you as a child and believe the image of a happy family that your parents propagated;… Continue reading Party of One: How to Stand Strong in the Truth When No One Believes You

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Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

You've long suspected something is not quite normal about your relationship with your parents. Perhaps you even sought answers and read about the signs of emotional child abuse. Now, you have come to the hard, cold realization that you've been emotionally abused as a child—and that the abuse has extended into your adulthood. So, what… Continue reading Fear and Guilt Will Keep You in an Abusive Relationship If You Let Them

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The Secret Grief of an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

"I wonder if others feel the tremendous amount of loss and sadness I feel at not having the 'healthy' parent experience," writes an Invisible Scar reader in a recent email. "It's heartbreaking and my heart is definitely broken," she continues. "But, it's an overwhelming amount of grief to process and yet, it has to be… Continue reading The Secret Grief of an Adult Survivor of Emotional Child Abuse

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How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t

If you are an adult survivor of emotional child abuse, you probably have a hard time differentiating the "safe" people in your life from ones that are crazy-makers or harmful to your well-being. In fact, you may not even grasp the concept of "safe people." That's not your fault. Raised by toxic people, you weren't… Continue reading How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t

Adult Survivors of Emotional Child Abuse · Becoming Real · Healing

Do Something You Love in the New Year

Survivors of emotional child abuse who awaken to the reality of their past often talk about "finding out who I really am" and "becoming who I was meant to become." It's in that spirit, that I urge survivors of emotional child abuse to come up with a resolution this year to do something (healthy and… Continue reading Do Something You Love in the New Year

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Ask the Therapist: Steven Stosny on Fading Negative Voices, Recognizing the Emotional Abuse, and Getting on the Path to Recovery

At The Invisible Scar, we've recently received questions that made us seek out the advice of a mental healthcare professional to answer them. Because this site is run by a layperson, I turned to Steven Stosny, Ph. D, for a brief but informative interview. Stosny is the founder of CompassionPower in suburban Washington, DC. His most… Continue reading Ask the Therapist: Steven Stosny on Fading Negative Voices, Recognizing the Emotional Abuse, and Getting on the Path to Recovery